by Beth Terry
There was a time, a long long time ago, when you got an idea. You stretched — you reached — you pulled yourself up on your chubby little wobbly legs for the very first time. You took the biggest risk of your life to that point – and you walked.
Then you fell back on your padded rear end. What happened next? Did the people around you yell and say you were a failure for not walking perfectly the first time? No!
Did you think to yourself, ‘Eh, this walking thing is over-rated. I’m not anatomically put together correctly for walking. I don’t think it is a good idea to try this again. I don’t like this feeling of failure. I think I’ll just sit here in my comfy diaper and enjoy the floor.’ NO! You kept trying. You tried because you didn’t know any better. it seemed like the thing to do.
When a baby pulls itself up to walk, we get excited and encourage our little one to keep trying. ‘C’mon, you can do it! Honey! The BABY IS WALKING!’ We swell with pride when our child makes it across the room the first time. We watch in wonder as this tiny creature, whose age is measured in months, discovers new landscapes. We encourage our child. And our child WALKS!
Yet, somewhere between the initial discovery of two-legged ambulation and today, we learned to be discouraged. We have short memories. We forget that we DID learn to walk, after all. And we learned to talk. If we had parents or friends who spoke different languages, we easily picked those up.
We learned to run, to spell, to count. We learned to navigate to and from familiar places. We got older and learned math, science, how to drive, how to cook, how to get along in the world.
We keep learning. So much in our early years occurred because it was what we were all doing. We didn’t think about it all that much. Sure, we fretted over homework and tests, but we were learning things without realizing we were learning. And sometimes we got excited about it.
Time passed. We moved into the ‘real world’ – the world of work. The world of responsibilities, complicated relationships, accountability, rent, groceries, marriage, children.
Somewhere along the way, we lost flexibility. We forgot how to learn. We forgot how to fail properly – we forgot it is OK to fail and say, ‘Hmmm, that didn’t work. Maybe this will.’ So often we forget to give to ourselves the encouragement we give freely to loved ones.
Let’s face it, discouragement happens. It ‘s human. Just don’t let it stop you. The next time you get discouraged, think back on your first steps and remember – you made it this far. You can figure out a way to turn this into a success. ‘C’mon, you can do it. I believe in you!’
To your next, best accomplishment!
© 2006 BethTerry, Pacific Rim Seminars, LLC.
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